The main reason why men suddenly withdraw is because they need space. Obvious right?
Men often need space when they start getting close to a woman. Sometimes it's because they need to process this as it can be overwhelming for them. Remember they are not emotional gurus like us women are.
Men sometimes need space to figure out what they see you as - fun or relationship material. So if a guy is hot and cold - this is most probably where he is at.
Another very common reason is that they have stuff going on in their lives. It may be that they are under the pump at work or have stuff going on in their personal life like with family for example.
Secondly men withdraw because they are just not that into you. This may have happened to you before after sex. Ouch!
Thirdly, men withdraw because they are not emotionally ready or mature enough for a relationship. Both you and him need to have your head in the game in order to make it work.
So how do you manage the reasons why he pulls away?
If he pulls away don't chase him, this will only make him retract even more and perhaps indefinitely. You need to give him his space and not make a big deal about it or even mention it for that matter if he comes back. If he doesn't come back, it's not meant to be. It just means there is an opening for a better man to walk into your life.
If he pulls away after sex, then it may be because you go physical with him too quickly or he just didn't value the sex. A man needs time to get to know you and develop an emotional connection to you. Don't rush into the physical even if he wants to. Make sure you have developed a bond with him first and he is aware what you want from him. If you want long term you need to tell him that. Sex is really important to a guy so if you have been honest with him about what you want and gotten to know him before having it, then he wasn't sold on your sexual repertoire. Learn some tricks.
Finally, if he is not ready for a relationship there is not one single thing you can do to change this. It is his choice and you are far better of walking away and finding a man that is reading than holding a candle for this guy and waiting for him to come around. This process isn't a quick one.
Men often need space when they start getting close to a woman. Sometimes it's because they need to process this as it can be overwhelming for them. Remember they are not emotional gurus like us women are.
Men sometimes need space to figure out what they see you as - fun or relationship material. So if a guy is hot and cold - this is most probably where he is at.
Another very common reason is that they have stuff going on in their lives. It may be that they are under the pump at work or have stuff going on in their personal life like with family for example.
Secondly men withdraw because they are just not that into you. This may have happened to you before after sex. Ouch!
Thirdly, men withdraw because they are not emotionally ready or mature enough for a relationship. Both you and him need to have your head in the game in order to make it work.
So how do you manage the reasons why he pulls away?
If he pulls away don't chase him, this will only make him retract even more and perhaps indefinitely. You need to give him his space and not make a big deal about it or even mention it for that matter if he comes back. If he doesn't come back, it's not meant to be. It just means there is an opening for a better man to walk into your life.
If he pulls away after sex, then it may be because you go physical with him too quickly or he just didn't value the sex. A man needs time to get to know you and develop an emotional connection to you. Don't rush into the physical even if he wants to. Make sure you have developed a bond with him first and he is aware what you want from him. If you want long term you need to tell him that. Sex is really important to a guy so if you have been honest with him about what you want and gotten to know him before having it, then he wasn't sold on your sexual repertoire. Learn some tricks.
Finally, if he is not ready for a relationship there is not one single thing you can do to change this. It is his choice and you are far better of walking away and finding a man that is reading than holding a candle for this guy and waiting for him to come around. This process isn't a quick one.
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